First Candle offers not only offers compassionate grief support to all those affected by the death of a baby, but we are committed to the elimination of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, Sudden Unexpected Infant Death and Stillbirth.


When a baby dies, hopes and dreams are shattered and lives are forever changed. Initial feelings of shock and confusion are combined with questions: What happened? Why me? Many times, the lack of answers adds to the overwhelming feelings of grief and helplessness.

These intense emotions are real and a normal part of grieving. Grief is the process of trying to cope with your loss and make meaning out of life without your baby. Grieving is not easy. It is long, unpredictable and requires a lot of patience, but it is also a necessity if you are to work through the pain toward healing. 

No matter how deep your grief and how great your pain, remember that you are not alone. First Candle, along with others who have traveled this road before you, can help you through this difficult time. 


We can guide you through the grieving process and empower you to help other families facing the same tragedy.

  • Research: Over the course of the past two decades, First Candle has expended more than $4 million to fund cutting-edge research projects at medical institutions throughout the U.S. Under the auspices of our Medical and Scientific Advisory Council, an internationally recognized body of senior level pediatric scientists, we continue to provide a single, focused outlet for individuals and organizations interested in supporting research to further our understanding of SIDS, stillbirth and other causes of sudden, unexpected infant deaths (SUID).
  • Education and Awareness: We supply comprehensive, quality assured information on infant health and survival to expectant parents, grandparents and the general public through a toll-free information hotline and our website. We also provide technical assistance and risk reduction education and training to professional and community organizations interested in infant health. Last year alone, we distributed more than 200,000 brochures and fact sheets.
  • Advocacy: First Candle helps guide national and local political action to ensure that SIDS, stillbirth and other infant health programs receive adequate funding. First Candle/SIDS Alliance has ensured that Federal funding for SIDS research has increased from $500,000 in 1985 to over $17 million.
  • Family Support: First Candle provides bereavement services to help families through the difficult time after the loss of a child. Through the distribution of grief packets, peer support training, conferences, referrals to local support services and our web site, we help families connect and share experiences. Bilingual crisis counselors are also available 24-hours per day, seven days per week through our toll-free crisis hotline. In just one year, First Candle reached more than 13,000 people devastated by the tragedy of infant death.


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Music to Grieve to

Listening to sad music after losing a loved one, being diagnosed with a terminal illness, or finalizing a divorce might seem counterintuitive, but this somber sounding activity has been proven to help.

Nothing can prepare you for grief, nor is there a right or wrong way to deal with it, but sad music is an easily accessible and highly effective tool that can help you begin to heal.

Learn How Sad Music Can Help You