Who Does Your Organization Serve?
Grieving Children is a practical resource for educators, health professionals, parents, and all loving adults who care for and work with children and teens experiencing grief, loss, and trauma.
We are particularly focused on youth that are numbed, disconnected from their hearts, their minds, and their consciousnesses, and choosing all too easily, other alternatives such as drugs and alcohol, crime and violence as ways of coping with the loss of their assumptive world.
What Is Their Biggest Challenge?
Children entering this new millennium are faced with life issues that were unspeakable to us growing up as children. Death related tragedies such as suicide, homicide, and AIDS, and non-death related traumas such as divorce and separation, foster care and abandonment, bullying and terrorism, and abuse and violence have left our children sitting alone in their homes, unfocused and unmotivated in their classrooms, and terrorized in their communities. They are overwhelmed with their feelings and distracted by their thoughts.
How Do You Help Them?
By joining together as a global grief team, caring adults can co-create an assumptive world that again provides a child’s birthright to presume love, generosity, and value will be integral parts of their lives.
This is a way to start the process with children:
- Be truthful. Children have a conscious or unconscious knowing if they are not told the truth. Then they suffer another loss of the trust of the adults around them,
- Keep explanations simple. More is not always better. Children are often content with a simple answer, knowing they can come back if they have more questions.
- Share the facts. In simple and concrete language, share the facts with children about what happened to their person in age-appropriate ways.
- Remind children it was not their fault. Too often children are filled with magical thinking and can too easily find a reason why they caused their person to die.
- Define death. Death is when the body stops working. Usually people die when they are very, very old, or very, very sick, or their bodies are so injured that the doctors or nurses can’t make their bodies work any more.
Where Can We Find Out More?
There are several helpful tips, articles and links to books I have written on my website www.grievingchildren.net that you can use to educate yourself and then in turn be able to communicate in a trusting and honest way with children in order to help them, understand their thought process and know where they are coming from. There is also a contact form on the site if you’d like to get in touch with me.
Music to Grieve toListening to sad music after losing a loved one, being diagnosed with a terminal illness, or finalizing a divorce might seem counterintuitive, but this somber sounding activity has been proven to help.
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